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The same words, yet why do some people's words resonate so deeply ? — A person's "way of being" is reflected in their words and the way they interact with others.

Yesterday, while browsing Instagram, I came across something someone had written that really resonated with me.

"Ah, I understand."
"Yes, that's it."

It was as if the words were entering me directly.

But then I realized that someone else had said something similar before.

They're saying pretty much the same thing.

Yet, at the time, it didn't particularly leave a lasting impression on me.

What could be the reason for this difference?

When I thought about it, what came to mind was,

It is not just the words themselves that move people's hearts,
I think the key is "who is saying those words and where are they coming from?"

Someone who talks about things they know as knowledge.

Someone who takes what they've learned from others and rephrases it in their own words to share.

and,

A person who speaks in their own words about the things they have struggled with, wavered through, experienced, felt, and that have passed through them many times.

Even the same words can convey completely different meanings.

People don't just take in the content of words.
I am receiving the essence of the person behind those words.

That's why I think it resonates so deeply.

Even if the words aren't perfectly chosen, they can still leave a lasting impression.

Conversely, no matter how beautiful the words you use, they can sometimes feel borrowed or artificial.

I think we unconsciously sense whether those words have truly come from within the person speaking them.


And the same could be said for the treatments performed by therapists, couldn't it?

Even if you learn the same techniques and touch the body in the same way,

"For some reason, this person's treatments are very soothing."

"When this person touches me, I feel strangely at ease."

I sometimes feel that way.

Of course, technology is important.

Understanding the structure of the body, mastering the correct form, and learning the direction and rhythm of pressure are all important.

But there is definitely something that cannot be explained by technology alone.

it is,

How does that person apply that technology, and in what "way of being"?

I think so.

For example, you can tell someone to "relax" using words.

But I myself was feeling anxious,

"We have to do it properly."

If you're tense or stressed, that tension will show in how you touch someone.

Conversely, when the therapist themselves is calm, doesn't rush the client, and touches them with trust in their body, that sense of security is conveyed to the client without needing to be put into words.

Perhaps touching someone and conveying words are essentially the same thing.

What are you talking about?

What to do?

Before that,

"Where do I come from to do that?"

That's what changes how your message reaches the other person.

Therefore, I believe that for therapists, growth isn't solely about increasing one's skills.

Things I have experienced.

What I felt.

Things I failed at.

Things I was unsure about.

What I realized from that.

I carefully build up those kinds of things within myself.

And instead of expressing my own feelings and thoughts through someone else's words, I will express them in my own words.

Then, even with the same technology and the same language,

Gradually, a unique "depth" that only that person can possess begins to emerge.

The person themselves becomes embodied in the technology.

Perhaps it's something that can only be created over a long period of time.

That's why I want therapists to value not only "techniques" but also "living their own life."

What I truly feel.

What I truly value.

Things I have experienced.

The words and touch that come from there are something that no one else can imitate.

The same words, yet they pierce my heart.

It's the same technology, yet it makes my body feel at ease.

What makes the difference is

Rather than "what to do",
"Who is doing it, and what kind of person are they?"

That might be the case.

And as I write this blog today, I'm asking myself the same question.

Are your words words that have passed through your own mind?

Does your touch reflect your true self?

KAORI